Each time he suggested they get married, she said no. They were too happy, precariously so, and she wanted to guard that bond; she feared that marriage would flatten it into a prosaic partnership.
Each memory stunned her with its blinding luminosity. Each brought with it a sense of unassailable loss, a great burden hurtling towards her, and she wished she could duck, lower herself so that it wo...
Don’t even bother telling a white conservative about anything racist that happened to you. Because the conservative will tell you that YOU are the real racist and your mouth will hang open in confusio...
Do you want to go to Nsukka?’ I asked when we got to the landing. ‘Yes,’ he said, and his eyes said that he knew I did, too. And I could not find the words in our eye language to tell him how my throa...
Do you want this one, sweetheart? The yellow or the blue or the red? Which do you want? Just give her one, Ifemelu thought. To overwhelm a child of four with choices, to lay on her the burden of makin...
Do it together. Remember in primary school we learned that a verb is a 'doing' word? Well, a father is as much a verb as a mother.
Darkness descended upon him, and when it lifted he knew that he would never see Kainene again and that his life would always be a candlelit room; he would see things only in shadow, only in half glimp...
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But she was uncomfortable with what the professors called 'participation,' and did not see why it should be part of the final grade; it merely made students talk and talk, class time wasted on obvious...
But if we start raising children differently, then in fifty years, in a hundred years, boys will no longer have the pressure of proving their masculinity by material means.
Because you are a girl is never a reason for anything. Ever. I
Be a full person. Your child will benefit from that... Marlene Sanders... once gave this piece of advice to a younger journalist: Never apologize for working. You love what you do, and loving what you...
Bartholomew wore khaki trousers pulled up high on his belly, and spoke with an American accent filled with holes, mangling words until they were impossible to understand. Ifemelu sensed, from his deme...
At first Ifemelu thought Kimberly's apologizing sweet, even if unnecessary, but she had begun to feel a flash of impatience, because Kimberly's repeated apologies were tinged with self-indulgence, as...
Anger, the tone said, is particularly not good for a woman. If you are a woman, you are not supposed to express anger, because it is threatening.
And what’s a Magic Negro, you ask? The black man who is eternally wise and kind. He never reacts under great suffering, never gets angry, is never threatening. He always forgives all kinds of racist s...
And they have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings with no self-control is somehow acceptable. We
And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males.
And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We
And even though she checked yes to all the symptoms on the card the doctor gave her, she refused to accept the diagnosis of panic attacks because panic attacks happened only to Americans. Nobody in Ki...