The other day Marcia was talking about how black women are fat because their bodies are sites of anti-slavery resistance. Yes, that’s true, if burgers and sodas are anti-slavery resistance.
The only reason you say that race was not an issue is because you wish it was not. We all wish it was not. But it’s a lie. I came from a country where race was not an issue; I did not think of myself...
The more civilians you bomb, the more resistance you grow.
The man standing closest to her was eating an ice cream cone; she had always found it a little irresponsible, the eating of ice cream cones by grown-up American men, especially the eating of ice cream...
The little boy had a delightful curious face. Do you live in London? he asked Obinze. Yes, Obinze said, but that yes did not tell his story, that he lived in London indeed but invisibly, his existence...
The late Kenyan Nobel peace laureate Wangari Maathai put it simply and well when she said, the higher you go, the fewer women there are. In
The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina. ... If we stopped conditioning women to see marriage as a prize, then we would have fewer debates about a wife needing to cook in orde...
The biggest problem in this country is not corruption. The problem is that there are many qualified people who are not where they are supposed to be because they won’t lick anybody’s ass, or they don’...
That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human. For centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one gro...
Tente não usar demais palavras como misoginia e patriarcado com Chizalum. Nós, feministas, às vezes usamos muitos jargões, e o jargão às vezes pode ser abstrato demais. Não se limite a rotular alguma...
Teach her, too, to question the idea of women as a special species. I once heard an American politician, in his bid to show his support for women, speak of how women should be revered and championed—a...
Teach her to question men who can have empathy for women only if they see them as relational rather than as individual equal humans. Men who, when discussing rape, will always say something like if it...
Teach her to question language. Language is the repository of our prejudices, our beliefs, our assumptions. .. Try not to use words like misogyny and patriarchy too often with Chizaleum. We can someti...
Teach her that to love is not only to give but also to take. This is important because we give girls subtle cues about their lives – we teach girls that a large component of their ability to love is t...
Sometimes she worried that she was too happy. She would sink into moodiness, and snap at Obinze, or be distant. And her joy would become a restless thing, flapping its wings inside her, as though look...
Something about the way Chinedu said his name, Abidemi, made her think of gently pressing on a sore muscle, the kind of self-inflicted ache that is satisfying.
Some people will say a woman is subordinate to men because its our culture. But culture is constantly changing...culture does not make people, people makes culture.
So, do you plan to go to Aokpe? Father Amadi asked.I was not really planning to. But I suppose we will have to go now, I will find out the next apparition date.People are making this whole apparition...
So you say. A woman with children and no husband, what is that? Me.
So instead of teaching Chizalum to be likeable, teach her to be honest. And kind. And brave. Encourage her to speak her mind, to say what she really thinks, to speak truthfully. And then praise her wh...